Cycle of love.

Let’s take a moment to appreciate the fact that I finally feel genuinely happy with my life right now. I always tried to make myself think I was happy before; that nothing was missing and I loved the way things were. But none of that was true. It was a cycle of thinking I needed a guy to complete me as a person, or show me what life was really about. 

In all honesty I was what you might consider a hopeless romantic in the worst possible way. A loveaholic if you will. It seemed from the time I hit puberty and realized boys thought I was attractive, I needed one, (sometimes more), to make my life go round. That is a mistake I hate admitting to, and pray I wasn’t the only one who made it. 

When I realized how much fun dating, kissing, holding hands, etc. was, I seriously felt like nothing else could possibly be more important. Even my favorite book or a cup of coffee from the local cafe couldn’t match the endorphin levels that a boy who gave me attention could. Pathetic, I know. No offense to anyone else out there who’s been in my shoes. But looking back on it, I’m embarrassed for myself!

Now, don’t get me wrong, being in a relationship can be an absolutely wonderful thing. It really does make your life feel just a little better. But when you begin to feel that without one, your life isn’t complete at all, some perspective is in dyer need. Having that special connection and bond with a person does put you on top of the world. But it can become easy to put their needs and emotions ahead of your own, leaving you feeling drained and totally imbalanced. If my relationships have taught me anything, it’s that space is a MUCH needed thing, for not only you but them as well. 

The honeymoon phase of a relationship can last anywhere from two weeks to four months just depending on the couple, but we all know that once it’s hit it’s peak, things aren’t nearly as exciting anymore. Those butterflies might have receded now that you’re both comfortable with one another, and in all honesty some things they do might even annoy the shit out of you now. That’s normal! But so is getting back in touch with the outside world!

When you spend all that quality time with the “perfect person” you’ve been dreaming of, you forget that you’ve still got friends and family from time to time. If you’re lucky, they’ll be understanding. They will get that you’re head over heals and let you enjoy your happy time until you’re ready to come back down to earth. But there are times when they will be hurt. Let me just say, you should pay very close attention to your friends and families needs just as much as yours and your new love interest. They have usually been there for you and will continue to be there for you much longer than the guy of the moment. This is not meant to say you are a bad person, or that you can’t still enjoy the time you have with your significant other, but keep in mind who will be there if something goes wrong. I for one would rather have the cushioned support of my family and friends than the cold hard ground.m